Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Your circumstances TODAY don't determine what's possible for TOMORROW....Rewrite the script;-) Love LIFE!!

For it is by grace you have been saved. Ephesians 2:8.

As a child coming up in poverty, you learn to understand your options are far and few in between. As the saying goes, "The proof is in the pudding." If a poor state of mind, followed by a poor state of living is all you see, you believe that is the way life should be, for you at least. It becomes your norm, and you become accustomed. You grow accustomed to the environment, to the abuse, neglect, hunger, homelessness, fear, destitution, isolation you see in you daily life. Until you are shown different & you believe different, and you try different, nothing will change. But when you do, eventually the cycle of poverty will be broken. I had to choose different, not for myself but for my children, for future generations. The one thing I did different was strive for the heighest education possible, it worked. The best way, I believe the only way, to change your circumstances, is to change the way you think, to believe in yourself even when those around you, doubt you. What resonates in you?
The Woman In Me!

Don't ask me how I did this or how I did that, and don't tell me I can't do this and I can't do that...there should be no question as to how man. And as far as the can't, hmph, yes we can! You see me I may be little and I may appear weak but as long as I am a Woman, Do not question my ability, because you should already know...It's the WOMAN in me!...
To Forgive AND to Forget

They say to forgive and to forget, but just when you thought you have, your soul flows over with emotion, like water, pouring over a glass.
Memories so vivid, they cut like knives, I feel the darkness and fear in my body, the way I felt that moment in time. I try hard to forget, but the truth is covered with lies, I realize...you're not sorry, no desire to apoligize, I'm just another who has been victimized.
Trying to live in oblivion, but what you did to me was a sin. You try to ignore the realities of the past, I try to find the courage to ask, but you would only deny, so...forget I asked.
Trying to ignore what I thought then, to be nightmares from the past, but the truth hurts, to forgive and to forget...that's just too much to ask.

~Bernadette
True Love Conquers the Soul

You can beat my body down, Stomp on my soul. But, it will take more than that to conquer me whole.
With a battered heart and a beaten body, my soul is strong and I am somebody. I look in the mirror with a busted face and I wonder how much more can my body take. You can beat me down and hammer me thin, but my soul is strong, it will not be defeated, it won't let you win.
With every blow, you became weak, and with your every blow it's my soul you tried to defeat.
Stronger than me and bigger than you, it's my soul that's protecting me, from the monster in you.
You've hurt my body, it couldn't take your last blow, I thought I loved you, but, that you will never know.
Life flashes before me, and it's you I see, with friends and family warning me. Everything happened, happened so quickly I thought things would change, I could teach you to love me. The words of my mother are haunting me, "It only gets worse, just wait and see."
My heart it beats slow, and all is dark, my body is hurting, you have left your mark. My soul carries on, and my bruised body is gone. I can hear the cries of those that loved me, all along. I am sorry mom, you were right, I thought my story was different. I thought things would change, I thought he loved me.
I wish I had listened at this last minute in time. My body is gone, but it is my soul that carries on. I have nothing left, but my spirit, my soul, so please...please don't let this story go untold. TRUE Love, is supposed, to conquer, the soul.
~Bernadette

Denial

Denial is like a disease undetected. The longer it goes unrecognized the more detrimental to your life, health, family, and those around you it becomes.
~Bernie

Learning From Experience

Boud et al. 1985 suggest that structured reflection is the key to learning from experience, and that reflection can be very difficult. "Perhaps if we can sharpen our consciousness of what reflection in learning can involve and how it can be influenced then we may be able to improve our own practice of learning and help those who learn with us" (emphasis added, Boud et al. 1985, 8).